08 Nov The Success Trap
Success is completely subjective, it’s up to the individual.
One thing can look like a success to some people, but to others, it might not even be close.
If we neglect to come up with our own definition of success, by default we adopt someone else’s, or a lot of the time societies.
We end up looking at the score, the results, the outcome or the sales to determine if something is a success or not.
It’s determined by how it looks to other people, which we all know never paints the entire picture.
When this happens we fall into the trap of working to be viewed by others as a success instead of viewing ourselves as one.
However, when you create your own definition and criteria for what success looks like to you personally, there’s a complete shift.
You become the judge and you decide whether what you’ve done is a success or not.
External opinions and perceptions become irrelevant.
I am yet to find a better definition of success than John Wooden’s:
“Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”
As DJ Khaled would say, a major key to success is that it doesn’t matter how things look to other people. How it looks to you is the only thing that counts.
If you’re giving your best effort in something, if you’re doing everything you’re capable of doing, does anything else matter?
When you set the criteria, you hold the power.